What is Fear? Where does it come from? And most importantly, how do we get rid of it?

I’ve heard people say that they aren’t afraid of anything.  I am going to call BS on that one.  No one is without fear.  In fact, I believe that a lot of the anger and hate we see in our society today is an outward manifestation of inner fear.  And fear leads to suffering, shaking us to our core and leaving us feeling powerless in our own lives, enslaving us to our thoughts.  These “shadow thoughts” are the stories that we spin in our minds and keep telling ourselves over and over.  Where do they come from? That’s simple.  Anywhere and Everywhere. The TV, a story someone tells us, past experiences.

So what do we do about it?  No one wants to live in fear, but how do we get past it?  Shadow thoughts come in our lives no matter what.  They cannot be avoided.  But, how you respond to that worry or fear, will dictate the course it takes, or the place it has in your life.

What if I told you that the way you hold on to or release thoughts will determine just how much you suffer. Would you believe me?  The suffering comes from the thought itself.  Usually, we are so busy being wrapped up in the story we are spinning, we haven’t spent any time actually determining whether or not it is true.

Byron Katie is a Speaker and Author who has been described by Time Magazine as “a spiritual innovator for the 21st century”.  She has developed her own method of self-inquiry known as “the Work”.  Katie said, “I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer and this is true for every human being.  Freedom is as simple as that.  I found that suffering is optional”.

Think about that.  Let it sink in.  Suffering is optional.  You can decide whether or not you suffer.  And here is my favorite part.  Say it with me….

The Power is in the Shift.

When Fear comes, as we have established it will, she doesn’t come alone.  There is a feeling.  Sometimes that feeling is a sinking sensation, or sometimes an anxious feeling.  It is different for different people.  But when the feeling comes, instead of running from it, allowing it to control your thoughts and actions, embrace it.  Welcome Fear for who she is, an old friend telling you that you need to pay attention to something here.

This is where the Shift happens.  The feeling is there because it wants you to take notice or be aware.  So do that.  Pay attention.  Give the feeling the respect it deserves and then spin it on its head and Shift.  Shift into joy.  Shift into gratitude.  Shift into love.  Choosing to come from a place of love rather than Fear lets the light into those dark corners.

Over the next few weeks, I am going to talk about this practice, utilizing several methods from other amazing, innovative and spiritual thinkers and hopefully help you learn how to Shift Fear from Enemy to Friend.  This is just the start, understanding what Fear is.  Now it’s time to take back the power and learn to Shift.  I hope you will join me.


Namaste.  In peace and light.
Bernadette Marie

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