Are you satisfied with your life as it is? Do you want to change your career? Income? Love Life? Lose Weight? Something else, perhaps? In order to build a life that you want, you first have to get clear on what it is you want.
Here’s where the hard part starts. You have to be completely honest with yourself. Brutally honest. If you say you are seeking a committed relationship, better friendships or being closer to your children, then you have to actually be able do what it takes to make that (Shift). But that’s a whole blog scheduled for an upcoming date. Stay tuned.
People seldom make a change unless they are “DONE” with their current situation. Think about it. Have you ever made a change when you were satisfied with the way something was working? Of course not! If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. The same holds true for our choices. When you are fed up with whatever it is that you perceive as the “problem” in your life, you are ready to make a change. This is the jumping point for transformation. You have to decide that you can no longer live with your situation as it is.
Let’s take weight loss as an example. You want to lose 30 pounds, but are you willing to do what it takes? Are you ready to commit to making healthier food choices, saying no to those amazing fries at your favorite restaurant? Are you ready to wake up an hour earlier to go for a walk around the neighborhood, or head to the gym for a yoga class? Are you ready to really make the choices necessary to lose the weight? Be honest. If the answer is no, then Bravo! You are already living the life you are choosing. But if the answer is YES!, then you are ready to start making a change and take the next step toward your goal.
Don’t celebrate too long! Now you have to start the work to make the goal a reality. Our brains have been trained over time. It’s almost as if we are on auto pilot. You think you are making all your own choices, but are you? You get up, go to the bathroom, brush your teeth, put on the coffee, take a shower, get dressed, dry you hair… All of these “habits” are programmed into your day.
Studies show that 95 percent of our choices are on autopilot. That means that we are only making choices five percent of the time. Yep, you read that right, my free thinking, destiny owning badasses…. FIVE PERCENT!!!! So, how do you make the change? It starts with one decision at a time. If you try and change everything at once, go COLD TURKET so to speak, you are most likely setting yourself up for defeat.
Let’s say your goal is to be able to run a marathon, that’s a great goal. Not one I would join you in accomplishing (I am more of a nice stretching class kind of a girl) but a good goal! If you wake up and say, “I am going to run a marathon next week” and you have never even jogged around the block, you just might be setting yourself up for defeat. A marathon is a big goal. It can definitely be done, but you have to start with buildable and obtainable goals.
Start by walking around the block. Then maybe a little bit longer and more fast paced. Eventually you can build that into running and then running longer distances. I once heard it said, if you look at an elephant, you might think, I could never eat that whole thing, but if you take it one bite at a time, eventually you finish.
And for goodness sakes, give yourself a break! Everyone falls off the wagon now and again. So you miss a day of jogging around the block. Don’t give up!!!! Recommit to getting back on track the next day. It’s only failure if you quit.
Now here’s the big one! Stop blaming everyone and everything else for your lack of commitment! You don’t have time to make it to the gym because you are a single Mom to four kids and you can barely find time for a shower let alone hitting the elliptical? Come on, you live on a street right? Put on those sneakers and take a walk around the block. Seriously, people make time for what they truly want. So own that shit! Make the choices you want to make and OWN IT!!!
So you have a choice, stay where you are in your life or, if you want to change something, get clear on what you want. Remember that being honest with yourself is key. If you aren’t honest, then you will never change your existing behavior. You are in command of your own mind and you decide where your life is headed. Once you truly begin to embrace this philosophy, you can begin to make the (Shift).
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